I’m glad Abeille had a reason to smirk & be amused after dealing with her mother guilting her into going with her parents to the party instead of her boyfriend.
Honestly, if Abeille’s mom would be an otherwise good mother, this request would be perfectly fine – she and her husband came over from far away and are staying for a limited time, so in a normal, functioning mother-daughter-relationship, I’d say it’s actually a more than reasonable request. But after all we’ve seen already, there’s no way this won’t end in a catastrophe, though I still don’t really see what exactly Amaryllis’ plan is – given Abeille’s good network of friends and Miel, I don’t see what reason might be powerful enough to get her to leave with her parents. Her mother is clearly guilt-tripping her, but Abeille seems well aware that she’s happier without her mother in her life and she had her reasons to run off in the first place.
In a normal, functioning, mother-daughter relationship, the mother would want to spend more time around her daughter’s new partner. If he’s going to be part of the family, better to get to know him (and therefore your daughter) better.
Huh, I think this is individual for each family? My sister’s boyfriend is, by now, spending time with our family on the holidays and birthdays, too, but that didn’t happen until they were a couple for several years. As in, the family events he got invited to increased over time. At first it was just meetings in a cafe ever so often and only years later he got invited to very “personal” family events like Christmas. So to me, it would actually seem natural in this case to only want Abeille around and not Miel, even in a healthy mother-daughter relationship and given the fact that Abeille’s parents hadn’t seen her in a long time. Maybe it’s a cultural thing or really just depends on the family? I’m from Germany, though admittedly I don’t know if there’s something like a “common” way to handle these things around here anyway. Also don’t get me wrong, Amaryllis has, so far, shown zero redeemable traits and I am not trying to defend her actions in any way or form. But when it comes to spending time with their children and only them, I think my parents – who are wonderful people – would definitely make the same request and it wouldn’t seem odd to me at all and actually be welcome. That it’s not a good thing for Abeille is, of course, a no-brainer.
Abeille’s mother reminds me so much of my own narcissistic abusive mother . I get real ‘golden child, abused child’ feels from the way we’ve seen the mom interact with her and her sister in the flashbacks as well. There’s just something so manipulative and distressing about the constant ‘call me back’s that become these unreasonable demands that you just can’t meet. Not to mention the traps they push you into with guilt and obligation or even fear. I recently went no contact with my mom and seeing this comic makes me feel better about it. I’m so much better off now that I don’t have worry about the next call or the next visit. I can just worry about myself and my own life and work toward recovering from my own trauma. It hurts,maybe it’ll always hurt…but it was so worth it in the end.
That was a triple-entendre, at least.
LOL
Abeille’s face in the 5th panel is SO perfect!!
Touché!
I’m glad Abeille had a reason to smirk & be amused after dealing with her mother guilting her into going with her parents to the party instead of her boyfriend.
(And now I want cake.)
“Cake” huh? Is that the kids call it these days?
“Pie” would have been way too obvious
Ahh so that’s her mom’s plan.
Honestly, if Abeille’s mom would be an otherwise good mother, this request would be perfectly fine – she and her husband came over from far away and are staying for a limited time, so in a normal, functioning mother-daughter-relationship, I’d say it’s actually a more than reasonable request. But after all we’ve seen already, there’s no way this won’t end in a catastrophe, though I still don’t really see what exactly Amaryllis’ plan is – given Abeille’s good network of friends and Miel, I don’t see what reason might be powerful enough to get her to leave with her parents. Her mother is clearly guilt-tripping her, but Abeille seems well aware that she’s happier without her mother in her life and she had her reasons to run off in the first place.
In a normal, functioning, mother-daughter relationship, the mother would want to spend more time around her daughter’s new partner. If he’s going to be part of the family, better to get to know him (and therefore your daughter) better.
Huh, I think this is individual for each family? My sister’s boyfriend is, by now, spending time with our family on the holidays and birthdays, too, but that didn’t happen until they were a couple for several years. As in, the family events he got invited to increased over time. At first it was just meetings in a cafe ever so often and only years later he got invited to very “personal” family events like Christmas. So to me, it would actually seem natural in this case to only want Abeille around and not Miel, even in a healthy mother-daughter relationship and given the fact that Abeille’s parents hadn’t seen her in a long time. Maybe it’s a cultural thing or really just depends on the family? I’m from Germany, though admittedly I don’t know if there’s something like a “common” way to handle these things around here anyway. Also don’t get me wrong, Amaryllis has, so far, shown zero redeemable traits and I am not trying to defend her actions in any way or form. But when it comes to spending time with their children and only them, I think my parents – who are wonderful people – would definitely make the same request and it wouldn’t seem odd to me at all and actually be welcome. That it’s not a good thing for Abeille is, of course, a no-brainer.
Something you wanna tell us, Poppy? 😉
Darn you!!! Now I want cake!
Time to be brave and talk to her, Poppy. I believe in you! <3
Something is moist, and it isn’t the cake.
I need that dress.
Abeille’s mother reminds me so much of my own narcissistic abusive mother . I get real ‘golden child, abused child’ feels from the way we’ve seen the mom interact with her and her sister in the flashbacks as well. There’s just something so manipulative and distressing about the constant ‘call me back’s that become these unreasonable demands that you just can’t meet. Not to mention the traps they push you into with guilt and obligation or even fear. I recently went no contact with my mom and seeing this comic makes me feel better about it. I’m so much better off now that I don’t have worry about the next call or the next visit. I can just worry about myself and my own life and work toward recovering from my own trauma. It hurts,maybe it’ll always hurt…but it was so worth it in the end.