I was hoping more that it would be stimulating. Mallow has no support, as far as we’ve seen, I think. He’s been beguiled by his darling, but he expresses support for Abeille. He needs some courage. I bet it’s not far away.
Stop being an enabler, man. She’s calling you “useless”, think about it.
Not only is she casually insulting you in front of your adult child, but it shows what she cares for in you is your usefulness to her.
I wish there was a “thumbs up” or “like” button but i cannot agree hard enough.
If Abielle was a real person I’d be having her read a bunch of books about dealing with horrible/narcissist parents and referring her to r/justnomil to learn some f*cking coping tools and boundary setting. She can do this. She deserves so much better.
“Young lady” ffs, she’s a whole grown woman. That having been said, I really love the word choices here. While the tone for both her father and mother are obviously completely different, both are infantilizing her and neither seems interested in hearing her out. Even though it could easily read as her father being pushed over by her mother, both want to talk to her, for her to listen to them, as opposed to talking with her or hearing what she has to say. I’m curious to see if we delve further into her relationship with her father apart from her mother to see if that really is just that him giving into whatever she wants or if he also sees her as a child.
Ordinarily, I wouldn’t condone climbing out a window to escape one’s parents’ lecture(s), but in this case, I’d be all, “shh! Over here! Grab a change of clothes, here’s your shoes, do you have your keys? Ready or not, GO!” Too bad it doesn’t look like there’s a window.
Abielle needs to deal with her first or this will never be resolved. She needs to be as strong as we know she CAN be (she packed up and moved to a whole new planet, our girl is STRONG) and stand up and set boundaries.
It’s absolutely bonkers that Abielle isn’t treated like an adult that has jumped planets and established her own life. I can’t wait for her to come to this realization and stand up to her mother.
And by “climb out a window,” I meant, “and get a hotel in another city and remain unavailable except by phone until they’re ready to apologize. Or leave the planet, whichever comes first.”
So. These people came without warning and without invitation to follow their adult grown daughter to a different solar system and different planet. Once there, they proceeded to barge in on her life, guilt trip her for not setting aside that life to spend time with them– again, when they weren’t even expected– disdain the activities she tries to entertain them with when she does try to make an effort, and go out of their way to deride her and make her feel inferior and insignificant at every turn. Then they proceed to intrude upon a holiday that seems to be for couples, and make her feel bad when she wants to spend any of that time with her romantic relationship. THEN, after catching her in a compromising and no doubt humiliating situation (to be caught in, at work, by one’s parents, I mean), then they dress her down again, but she’s “on thin ice” for retreating for a little space and dignity-gathering??? I mean, have I understood this correctly or missed any salient points???
I actually begin to wonder what their motives even are– or how they envisioned this scenario playing out. Like, really, what did they even think the best case scenario would be?
What their motives are?
Easy. Amaryllis *wants* to make Abeille feel diminished, subservient, and like a child. Amaryllis wants Abeille to cower and beg for forgiveness, so that Amaryllis can feel magnanimous when she “grants forgiveness” to her “wayward, ungrateful child.” This re-establishes Amaryllis as the one in control and the one who is superior to Abeille (and also Mallow, since she basically ignored him, but I feel confident in saying Amaryllis is firmly established as the “one in control”).
Amaryllis is a textbook narcissist/abuser. So if Abeille confronts her mother – about any of the aforementioned issues in Blue’s post – her mother is going to Defend her reasoning, Attack Abeille, and Reverse the Victim. This has happened before when Abeille brought up something and Amaryllis was suddenly giving the “poor underappreciated mother” speech. (I don’t have it at my fingertips, but it was around when Amaryllis gave her the snowglobe thing iirc)
Honestly, at this point, it might be best if Abeille decamped to Miel’s place because something tells me his Mom and Amma are very much “don’t start none, won’t be none” kind of people who would have no problem telling Amaryllis where to go.
I wouldn’t call her dad “trash,” per se. “Spineless,” perhaps…he means well, he’s just got no ability to stand up to her when his daughter really needs him to.
Hello, police? Yeah someone just broke into my home and I’m hiding and crying in my bedroom. She’s screaming and acting threatening. You’re sending someone? Thank you…no I don’t know her. She is a complete stranger and psycho!
Abeille… I get you’re not prepared to do this, but you’re not “dealing with your mom” right now.
You’re cowering.
And as much as you don’t want to, there IS something to talk about. It’s THEIR inexcusable behaviour towards YOU.
If I were Abeille right now, my answer would be “okay, talk”. She obviously needs to make things clear with her parents but for this to work, it must be on her terms, not theirs.
“We want to talk to you…. NOW GET OUT HERE AND LISTEN TO WHAT I HAVE TO SAY!”
I want Abeille so badly to tell them both to just F Off and get out of her house. I am all for respecting ones parents but NOT when they completely and utterly have NO respect for YOU.
Okay dad, here’s your chance to step up. Man this is all too real.
He is getting a little bolder, maybe.
Miel’s moms should invite him to tea for a conversation.
I doubt all the tea on the planet will calm down any one of them.
I was hoping more that it would be stimulating. Mallow has no support, as far as we’ve seen, I think. He’s been beguiled by his darling, but he expresses support for Abeille. He needs some courage. I bet it’s not far away.
Stop being an enabler, man. She’s calling you “useless”, think about it.
Not only is she casually insulting you in front of your adult child, but it shows what she cares for in you is your usefulness to her.
Good grief. You’re a guest in HER house, you ignoramus! Your daughter is an adult!
Guests are invited. She’s more of an intruder.
I wish there was a “thumbs up” or “like” button but i cannot agree hard enough.
If Abielle was a real person I’d be having her read a bunch of books about dealing with horrible/narcissist parents and referring her to r/justnomil to learn some f*cking coping tools and boundary setting. She can do this. She deserves so much better.
“Young lady” ffs, she’s a whole grown woman. That having been said, I really love the word choices here. While the tone for both her father and mother are obviously completely different, both are infantilizing her and neither seems interested in hearing her out. Even though it could easily read as her father being pushed over by her mother, both want to talk to her, for her to listen to them, as opposed to talking with her or hearing what she has to say. I’m curious to see if we delve further into her relationship with her father apart from her mother to see if that really is just that him giving into whatever she wants or if he also sees her as a child.
He says “let US talk to you” which really means “let your mother talk AT you” here.
Ordinarily, I wouldn’t condone climbing out a window to escape one’s parents’ lecture(s), but in this case, I’d be all, “shh! Over here! Grab a change of clothes, here’s your shoes, do you have your keys? Ready or not, GO!” Too bad it doesn’t look like there’s a window.
Nice! I approve wholeheartedly.
Amaryllis needs to Go Home.
Abielle needs to deal with her first or this will never be resolved. She needs to be as strong as we know she CAN be (she packed up and moved to a whole new planet, our girl is STRONG) and stand up and set boundaries.
I agree. I think she’s doing it.
It’s absolutely bonkers that Abielle isn’t treated like an adult that has jumped planets and established her own life. I can’t wait for her to come to this realization and stand up to her mother.
And by “climb out a window,” I meant, “and get a hotel in another city and remain unavailable except by phone until they’re ready to apologize. Or leave the planet, whichever comes first.”
I knew she was going to be a hate-sink for me, but WOW, way to overachieve…
So. These people came without warning and without invitation to follow their adult grown daughter to a different solar system and different planet. Once there, they proceeded to barge in on her life, guilt trip her for not setting aside that life to spend time with them– again, when they weren’t even expected– disdain the activities she tries to entertain them with when she does try to make an effort, and go out of their way to deride her and make her feel inferior and insignificant at every turn. Then they proceed to intrude upon a holiday that seems to be for couples, and make her feel bad when she wants to spend any of that time with her romantic relationship. THEN, after catching her in a compromising and no doubt humiliating situation (to be caught in, at work, by one’s parents, I mean), then they dress her down again, but she’s “on thin ice” for retreating for a little space and dignity-gathering??? I mean, have I understood this correctly or missed any salient points???
I actually begin to wonder what their motives even are– or how they envisioned this scenario playing out. Like, really, what did they even think the best case scenario would be?
I have seen nothing so far suggesting that Amaryllis could be interested in a “best case scenario”. She probably would not feel at home in it.
What their motives are?
Easy. Amaryllis *wants* to make Abeille feel diminished, subservient, and like a child. Amaryllis wants Abeille to cower and beg for forgiveness, so that Amaryllis can feel magnanimous when she “grants forgiveness” to her “wayward, ungrateful child.” This re-establishes Amaryllis as the one in control and the one who is superior to Abeille (and also Mallow, since she basically ignored him, but I feel confident in saying Amaryllis is firmly established as the “one in control”).
Amaryllis is a textbook narcissist/abuser. So if Abeille confronts her mother – about any of the aforementioned issues in Blue’s post – her mother is going to Defend her reasoning, Attack Abeille, and Reverse the Victim. This has happened before when Abeille brought up something and Amaryllis was suddenly giving the “poor underappreciated mother” speech. (I don’t have it at my fingertips, but it was around when Amaryllis gave her the snowglobe thing iirc)
Honestly, at this point, it might be best if Abeille decamped to Miel’s place because something tells me his Mom and Amma are very much “don’t start none, won’t be none” kind of people who would have no problem telling Amaryllis where to go.
Found it – The section Ch16 P47-50
(and it’s a credit to Gina how very much I hate Amaryllis and how very recognizable her type is)
Oooh, yeah that was very difficult to read. For finding pages there’s this unofficial wiki https://lovenotfound-fans.fandom.com/wiki/Characters#Amaryllis Notable scenes could be a thing. That is certainly one of them.
Abeille being upset is always the saddest thing. I worry about Miel’s gastrointestinal tract. I hope he doesn’t make an ulcer.
Time to call the police and have the intruders arrested. Not kidding, these parents are trash.
An abuser and an enabler.
I really hope she tells them to leave her house soon.
I wouldn’t call her dad “trash,” per se. “Spineless,” perhaps…he means well, he’s just got no ability to stand up to her when his daughter really needs him to.
Here’s hoping that changes in the near future.
Hello, police? Yeah someone just broke into my home and I’m hiding and crying in my bedroom. She’s screaming and acting threatening. You’re sending someone? Thank you…no I don’t know her. She is a complete stranger and psycho!
Miel’s pink banzai is pretty, in panel 1. Also, Abeille’s potted plant.
Hi K, I think you meant to use the word Bonsai, to refer to the plant. 🙂
Banzai is either a type of military attack, or a war cry/battle cry.
Bonsai!
Abeille… I get you’re not prepared to do this, but you’re not “dealing with your mom” right now.
You’re cowering.
And as much as you don’t want to, there IS something to talk about. It’s THEIR inexcusable behaviour towards YOU.
And also… you’re not okay, but it’s okay.
We’re all agreed that Abeille’s parents are garbage and should be shot-putted off the planet, right?
If I were Abeille right now, my answer would be “okay, talk”. She obviously needs to make things clear with her parents but for this to work, it must be on her terms, not theirs.
“We want to talk to you…. NOW GET OUT HERE AND LISTEN TO WHAT I HAVE TO SAY!”
I want Abeille so badly to tell them both to just F Off and get out of her house. I am all for respecting ones parents but NOT when they completely and utterly have NO respect for YOU.
What next, woman? Attacking the dryads? Sheesh.
I have said it before and I will say it again: Abeille, cut that toxicity from your life.