Oh thank god this world can’t be ruined by one abusive person. I was really worried because Abeil was, but I guess I can chalk it up to her mom training her to panic.
Still want to hand out a restraining order though.
I honestly could not have imagined a way of him handling this ANY better. Kudos, Miel, you are all kinds of awesome, especially as a boyfriend/partner.
I wrote what I wrote from my own experience. What I meant was that she’s an adult & she doesn’t have to do what her mother wants. Abeille & Miel can choose how to react to their mother’s actions. Her mother doesn’t have the ability to force her back to her home planet, or to separate her from her loved ones. Miel might lose his job, but he’s not that worried about it.
I’m not saying that dealing with abusive parents as an adult is easy, it certainly wasn’t for me, but I am saying that adulthood often gives us options we didn’t have before. Legal options. Financial options. Experiencial options.
I wish it were that easy. Abeille said it best – her mother won’t stop until she gets what she wants. If this particular tactic fails, I’m afraid that Amaryllis will just look for a different way to crush her daughter’s spirit.
Can I just take a moment to appreciate the way Gina uses color to express the feeling of a scene, even with such a limited palette. A few pages ago, Abeille was feeling overwhelmed and hopeless, and the shadows had a distinct purple hue, even though she was standing in the sunlight: https://lovenotfound.com/comic/ch19-p44/
On this page, Miel is with her, and everything is rose and gold, no blue/purple in sight, because he gives her love and hope. (Also, blue is the color mostly associated with Amaryllis and, to a lesser extent, everything else on their home planet, so it makes sense that it shows mostly when Abeille feels her mother’s shadow looming over her).
Having a privileged position in his work and decent parents who don’t make mountains out of molehill certainly helps the whole not-being-afraid thing. Growing up with stable ground makes a big difference.
Not that Abeille can’t get to more feelings of safety too. I’m so invested in how she has incrementally freed herself in so many ways. Usually my favorite characters aren’t the main ones so that’s strong praise to Gina <3
Oh no…Oh no no no, are they in the hall? If they’re not in the safety of Abeille’s room, and they’re in the hall, this is just screaming for her mother to barge down and verbally assault him. Gosh I hope they’re in the room, it looked Miel went in the room, but now I’m not sure.
I know her mom doesn’t stay at her place, but she does know where she lives, and why wouldn’t she come stomping to her daughter’s place after last night. That’s why I’m worried they’re in the hallway and not in her apartment.
After looking at last pages further – the corridor is pink. The interior of her apartment is yellow.
He went in through a door and that door is now closed. He needed to call and for Abeille to open the door therefore the door doesn’t consider him to be living there.
Abeille is a resident, Miel isn’t. I gotta hope her mom didn’t force Abeille to put her on the authorised list. As long as that’s the case, the absolute worst she can do is do whatever ruckus in the corridor.
Abeille is an extraordinary person, I think. Miel is a sweetheart for sure. He is being supportive as a person who loves someone would. He is self-sacrificing like Abeille. People I adore tend to think about other people and make sacrifices for them. They often have problems with other people, because they make themselves vulnerable. But they have something truly wonderful about them because of that.
What I love about people rarely relates to how it would benefit me to relate to them other than the ways that community and love benefit people, and weird lizard brain things like it’s so hot how she can make a chair out of wood.
I’m so suprised by the comment section this time because when I read the page, I thought “Miel, what the heck?” for the middle panels. Don’t get me wrong, I agree that he’s amazing and the first and last panel are absolutely perfect, but if I would be as distressed as Abeille is right now (no matter about what) and the one I’m talking to would react as “jokingly” as Miel does in panels 2-4, it would make me feel horrible, as if my distress is not taking seriously. Given how everyone else here seems to think that his reaction is completely amazing from the beginning to the end, I wonder now why I feel this way. Huh. I mean, the last panel made up for it all, but still…
I consider it him giving her a reality check, and dragging her into his normal outsider POV.
Take note that he did it AFTER stepping into her perspective by actually rushing to comfort her.
He dove in for her and is trying to drag her out.
His dismissal of the threat is demoting Amaryllis to “just a person who can do some things” instead of the larger than life scary figure.
TT_______TT
Miel is a ‘beekeeper’, alright. AND he’s a keeper too.
*applause* T_T
Oh thank god this world can’t be ruined by one abusive person. I was really worried because Abeil was, but I guess I can chalk it up to her mom training her to panic.
Still want to hand out a restraining order though.
I honestly could not have imagined a way of him handling this ANY better. Kudos, Miel, you are all kinds of awesome, especially as a boyfriend/partner.
Aww…
He’s too perfect, where can I find one?
It really is that simple… that moment when you first realize that you’re a full adult and your parents can’t touch you anymore is so, so powerful.
Her mother is literally affecting her life right now. “Realising” she “can’t do that” won’t do sh*t unless you make her stop.
Restraining order. Emancipation. It’s a thing in this world – Poppy did it.
This. Being an adult doesny always mean you are free of your abusers. It can, however, give some folks more options toward freedom.
I had to threaten legal action to get my own parents to stop affecting my life. It’s never simple.
I wrote what I wrote from my own experience. What I meant was that she’s an adult & she doesn’t have to do what her mother wants. Abeille & Miel can choose how to react to their mother’s actions. Her mother doesn’t have the ability to force her back to her home planet, or to separate her from her loved ones. Miel might lose his job, but he’s not that worried about it.
I’m not saying that dealing with abusive parents as an adult is easy, it certainly wasn’t for me, but I am saying that adulthood often gives us options we didn’t have before. Legal options. Financial options. Experiencial options.
Holy crap girl, marry this boy!
Or agree to be life partners, whatever works, but good grief, he’s great!
Very nice. Quite sweet.
I’m gonna need a mop, my heart just melted.
I wish it were that easy. Abeille said it best – her mother won’t stop until she gets what she wants. If this particular tactic fails, I’m afraid that Amaryllis will just look for a different way to crush her daughter’s spirit.
Can I just take a moment to appreciate the way Gina uses color to express the feeling of a scene, even with such a limited palette. A few pages ago, Abeille was feeling overwhelmed and hopeless, and the shadows had a distinct purple hue, even though she was standing in the sunlight: https://lovenotfound.com/comic/ch19-p44/
On this page, Miel is with her, and everything is rose and gold, no blue/purple in sight, because he gives her love and hope. (Also, blue is the color mostly associated with Amaryllis and, to a lesser extent, everything else on their home planet, so it makes sense that it shows mostly when Abeille feels her mother’s shadow looming over her).
♥️
Oh my god, he’s so precious! I love these two. This is probably the most beautiful comic page I’ve seen in a while.
Never joke about apiology. Very serious stuff. 🙂
This is how I feel about my spouse. That’s why I moved hemispheres for them. It’s very heartening to see depicted. I love it. <3
OMG. *Heart melts*
Is this an apiary cause we have a beekeeper here
Having a privileged position in his work and decent parents who don’t make mountains out of molehill certainly helps the whole not-being-afraid thing. Growing up with stable ground makes a big difference.
Not that Abeille can’t get to more feelings of safety too. I’m so invested in how she has incrementally freed herself in so many ways. Usually my favorite characters aren’t the main ones so that’s strong praise to Gina <3
Oh no…Oh no no no, are they in the hall? If they’re not in the safety of Abeille’s room, and they’re in the hall, this is just screaming for her mother to barge down and verbally assault him. Gosh I hope they’re in the room, it looked Miel went in the room, but now I’m not sure.
I don’t think her mother stays at her place though.
I know her mom doesn’t stay at her place, but she does know where she lives, and why wouldn’t she come stomping to her daughter’s place after last night. That’s why I’m worried they’re in the hallway and not in her apartment.
Fair concern. I think they are fully inside though, and on the last panel of the previous page I think Miel is closing the door with the inside panel.
And here panel 4 behind them is what looks like a closed door. I severely hope it has some auto-locking and mommy dearest can’t just open it at will
After looking at last pages further – the corridor is pink. The interior of her apartment is yellow.
He went in through a door and that door is now closed. He needed to call and for Abeille to open the door therefore the door doesn’t consider him to be living there.
Abeille is a resident, Miel isn’t. I gotta hope her mom didn’t force Abeille to put her on the authorised list. As long as that’s the case, the absolute worst she can do is do whatever ruckus in the corridor.
Now I want a Miel too, and I am not even into boys. Scratch that, into men. Because he does sound like a grown-up for sure.
You can want a Miel of whatever gender(s) you are attracted to. Personality and character has no gender 😉
Abeille is an extraordinary person, I think. Miel is a sweetheart for sure. He is being supportive as a person who loves someone would. He is self-sacrificing like Abeille. People I adore tend to think about other people and make sacrifices for them. They often have problems with other people, because they make themselves vulnerable. But they have something truly wonderful about them because of that.
What I love about people rarely relates to how it would benefit me to relate to them other than the ways that community and love benefit people, and weird lizard brain things like it’s so hot how she can make a chair out of wood.
I’m so suprised by the comment section this time because when I read the page, I thought “Miel, what the heck?” for the middle panels. Don’t get me wrong, I agree that he’s amazing and the first and last panel are absolutely perfect, but if I would be as distressed as Abeille is right now (no matter about what) and the one I’m talking to would react as “jokingly” as Miel does in panels 2-4, it would make me feel horrible, as if my distress is not taking seriously. Given how everyone else here seems to think that his reaction is completely amazing from the beginning to the end, I wonder now why I feel this way. Huh. I mean, the last panel made up for it all, but still…
I consider it him giving her a reality check, and dragging her into his normal outsider POV.
Take note that he did it AFTER stepping into her perspective by actually rushing to comfort her.
He dove in for her and is trying to drag her out.
His dismissal of the threat is demoting Amaryllis to “just a person who can do some things” instead of the larger than life scary figure.
I did overlook Abeille’s reaction and now I feel kind of guilty about that.
I feel like I would have to be there to know what the reaction really was. For me it was: beekeeper!!! melt… gurggle gurggle swoon swoon swoon
But, yeah, it is understandable that joking in a situation like that could really hurt someone. Maybe it did hurt Abeille. We’ll see, I think.
;w;
Abeille should be keeping him after that statement.
If they don’t get married, this man is too sweet.