You’re telling me the entire time she has worked in the foster center she hasn’t made a single friend? She was super outgoing on the ship, and worked with the gardeners since she arrived… how 0 friends? Is she just that bossy with everyone?
I think she is used to telling herself that she has no friends, which can be a good way to keep friends away. Also, she mostly stopped being “bossy” after she and Abeille resolved misunderstandings, and Poppy got new hair.
I don’t’ think she was ever bossy, really. Her being abrasive to Abeille, was complicated.
The story of young Poppy seems significant: https://lovenotfound.com/comic/ch14-p46/ And, chapter 14 in general. She and her mom are both treated poorly by the father and her mom clings to false hope. I think then Poppy essentially makes a vow that she will be alone from then on.
I agree with others about how good it feels to see her opening up.
On the ship, she was focused on Abeille. And coworkers don’t have to become friends – I’ve worked with people for years and we got along great during work, but when working together stopped, there were no lasting relationships formed.
And after Poppy left the gardeners, she also started therapy and slowly got used to touching with the kids – I think her mind was probably elsewhere. On top of that, we don’t know any of the other foster center workers well. We don’t know if they see touching as something that has to be done or something they enjoy; but no matter what, Poppy likely felt out of place at first, on top of having little energy (Abeille, who has so much energy, got tired out quickly by the kids) after the day and struggling with working through trauma… that’s a lot. And Poppy also realized the error of how she handled things with Abeille and so, she maybe also was unsure of how to handle new people who also touched (just like Abeille). Poppy is outgoing, yes, but she has a lot of baggage, is coping with a lot of change, having an exhausting job and doing a lot of mental work.
Sometimes people are insecure and don’t assume friendship due to a belief that others don’t really like them or are just tolerating them. She may be outgoing at work but then reluctant to make personal connections.
My husband is like this. He has said many times, he hasn’t really had a “friend” since high school, which I know is just not true. Earlier this month, we went on a beach trip with a large group, and he whispered to me late at night, “Wait, do they really all think of ME as a friend too?” It took an no-nonsense autistic lady to really get it through in a way he clearly understood that, indeed, they think of HIM as a friend too.
I am saying ‘bossy.’ I’m guessing I’m confused because I’m slow to call someone ‘friend’ but Poppy goes up to them and says ‘friend!’ We’ve seen her push herself in Abeille’s life enough that it seemed like her default setting.
The mood whiplash from the party to Poppy’s inner thoughts genuinely hurt. ;_; Someone give the poor dear whatever the acceptable equivalent of a hug is.
Invite Botan and Clove!
YESSSSSSS!!!!!!
Lol not the group hug people guessed, but this is just as awesome lol.
You’re telling me the entire time she has worked in the foster center she hasn’t made a single friend? She was super outgoing on the ship, and worked with the gardeners since she arrived… how 0 friends? Is she just that bossy with everyone?
I think she is used to telling herself that she has no friends, which can be a good way to keep friends away. Also, she mostly stopped being “bossy” after she and Abeille resolved misunderstandings, and Poppy got new hair.
I don’t’ think she was ever bossy, really. Her being abrasive to Abeille, was complicated.
The story of young Poppy seems significant: https://lovenotfound.com/comic/ch14-p46/ And, chapter 14 in general. She and her mom are both treated poorly by the father and her mom clings to false hope. I think then Poppy essentially makes a vow that she will be alone from then on.
I agree with others about how good it feels to see her opening up.
I dunno, I can see it.
On the ship, she was focused on Abeille. And coworkers don’t have to become friends – I’ve worked with people for years and we got along great during work, but when working together stopped, there were no lasting relationships formed.
And after Poppy left the gardeners, she also started therapy and slowly got used to touching with the kids – I think her mind was probably elsewhere. On top of that, we don’t know any of the other foster center workers well. We don’t know if they see touching as something that has to be done or something they enjoy; but no matter what, Poppy likely felt out of place at first, on top of having little energy (Abeille, who has so much energy, got tired out quickly by the kids) after the day and struggling with working through trauma… that’s a lot. And Poppy also realized the error of how she handled things with Abeille and so, she maybe also was unsure of how to handle new people who also touched (just like Abeille). Poppy is outgoing, yes, but she has a lot of baggage, is coping with a lot of change, having an exhausting job and doing a lot of mental work.
Sometimes people are insecure and don’t assume friendship due to a belief that others don’t really like them or are just tolerating them. She may be outgoing at work but then reluctant to make personal connections.
My husband is like this. He has said many times, he hasn’t really had a “friend” since high school, which I know is just not true. Earlier this month, we went on a beach trip with a large group, and he whispered to me late at night, “Wait, do they really all think of ME as a friend too?” It took an no-nonsense autistic lady to really get it through in a way he clearly understood that, indeed, they think of HIM as a friend too.
It might be more her perception than actual reality. It could also be that because she is new and everyone is busy, she doesn’t get invited to things.
I am saying ‘bossy.’ I’m guessing I’m confused because I’m slow to call someone ‘friend’ but Poppy goes up to them and says ‘friend!’ We’ve seen her push herself in Abeille’s life enough that it seemed like her default setting.
It’s nice to see that Tulip has a bedazzled side. Poppy’s reaction in panel 2 is perfect.
The mood whiplash from the party to Poppy’s inner thoughts genuinely hurt. ;_; Someone give the poor dear whatever the acceptable equivalent of a hug is.
Poor Poppy, but yay, dinner party!