Oh THANK GOODNESS she’s decided to talk about it first!! I love how main characters continue to be ✨Goals✨ 💙
One of my most hated tropes is someone unilaterally deciding to break up with their love interest, “for their own good”, but *not telling them the real reason!*
I could write a small, heated essay on *why* but I think I’ll spare you that 😉
Here’s the thing, Miel has already demonstrated that he’s not afraid to fight for what he wants/believes in, and that includes Abeille. He can fight his battle (and I say that in a good way) AND be strong enough to support Abeille in hers. It might her battle against her mom, but Miel absolutely can assist, and can share the amazing support system he has (his moms) and remind her that she doesn’t only have him, but her entire found family in Monotropa. I hope that he reminds her of this, because in situations like Abeille’s it’s super easy to forget what you’ve built in your road to healing/discovery.
On a humorous note, Miel has moms to spare. You can dump yours in the trash, Abeille and borrow one from him for a bit. Or literally anyone from Aster’s family including Botan’s ex.
There you go, she finally admitted it. Time to rally the team Abeille, you have a LOT of support for a reason. And it’s time for Dad to finally step up. He can’t let his wife keep doing this.
It seems like she is asking a question, indirectly. If she were leaning toward leaving, I think she would be more doomy. She is probably expecting Miel to say he wants to fight together, but she is laying out the details so he understands what the problems are. It doesn’t seem Abeiile-like to directly ask for him to take on problems for her. Her tone seems very different than usual. Or I’m just seeing what I want to.
I don’t think Abeille is going to ask Miel to take on her problems, or even her (considering said problems). I think Abeille is at the end of her rope – she’s desperate because all the things she’s tried up to this point (including leaving the same planetary system) have not been “enough” to get Amaryllis to listen to Abeille. Abeille cares a lot for Miel and she knows that her mother already cost him his job at Eyebright. Abeille likely doesn’t want her mother to keep sabotaging Miel in order to control her daughter; Abeille is afraid Miel would resent her if he stays and deals with Amaryllis’s issues.
That said, if this version of the future has lawyers/mediators, I think Abeille needs to find one, and soon. Amaryllis is not going to listen to anyone she perceives as “lesser” (like her daughter, Miel, and probably her spouse); any sort of wake-up call will have to come from someone who is/appears to be an Authority. The way I’ve seen people with similar traits to Amaryllis act, she’s definitely a “might makes right” sort of thinker. That doesn’t mean Amaryllis won’t complain, make herself the victim, or get angry – simply that she’s only going to stand down, begrudgingly, if someone makes it clear that they have the power to inflict actual consequences on her.
I wonder if Eyebright is connected to the company on Pasque that handles research /residency? If she’s a higher-level researcher it wouldn’t surprise me if the Pasque company has similar restrictions on public behavior like many large corporations have for their executives (ie, don’t do things that would reflect badly on the company in public). Getting a promising researcher in *another planetary system* fired and interfering with Eyebright’s R&D might look really bad to Pasque’s company, whether Pasque’s company and Eyebright are connected or not.
With Eyebright and Amaryllis, I figured she made some repercussions with her complain file to damage Eyebright’s reputation that the company didn’t want to keep putting with her, so they caved in to give her what she wanted. Wouldn’t surprise me that she’ll pull a flank like that, given her tactics as far.
At this point, Abeille will have to confront her mother with some proof that she’s living a better, more supportive life here or take legal action to cut off Amaryllis’ remaining influence. Words alone ain’t going to pierce that adamant mindset of hers.
I meant to say that even though Abeiile isn’t asking a question directly, her words and body language serve as a question.
She is laying out her worries about where her conflict with Amaryllis might go, and what it could mean about her relationship with Miel. It implies that Miel could say he wants to face Amaryllis with Abeille and accept the consequences.
I have trouble imagining Abeille asking Miel directly to put himself in danger, or even to allow herself to have the thought, but I imagine Miel would respond to what is being implied.
I think I am seeing Abeille acting differently than we have seen before (or I am seeing what I want to see.
Abeille’s expression in panel 2 reminds me of Clove’s expression in panel 5, chapter 17 page 38. In both they have their head tilted down and they are looking up as if asking for appoval.
I don’t think anything else but tackling the root of Amaryllis’ issues, will anything between her and Abeille can have a chance of getting resolve. Some serious borderline has to be eating at the Mother here and having her family make sacrifices of their own wellness and happiness rather than finding healthier ways to cope instead won’t help anyone here.
Unfortunately, some families DO go “well, that’s the way [Person] is…” and allow said Person to wreak havoc on their immediate families, with extended families avoiding Person as much as possible. :-/
Something Abeille needs to learn (and what many of us who grew up with mothers like Amaryllis learned the hard way) :
The path to you self-determination does not depend on your mother’s acceptance or understanding. Stop explaining to her. Stop trying to get her to understand and accept your choice. She never will, because they are counter to what SHE wants. The most you can do to live the life you want is to put protections in place to keep her from using or manipulating others to force you to obey her, and when walk away and live how you want to live.
I don’t know if any of you young ones are aware, but the Beatles had a perfect song to describe Amaryl’s behavior. I think it’s off the Sergeant Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club and it’s titled She’s leaving home. Setting the stage, it’s a young woman aged somewhere between 17- 22 years old, living with 2 parents, and she leaves home Wednesday morning at 5 o’clock she is sneaking is sneaking out of the house. The lyrics say something about She’s leaving home after living alone for so many years. (in other words, nobody looked at her with eyes of truth, the parents only wanted to see their preconceived notions of who she is) I absolutely love how Gina is perfectly bringing us the perfectly shown version of a Narcissistic parent- in this case a maternal host beast. Thank you Gina!
12 thoughts on “Love Not Found – Ch24, p49”
Bastet
Oh THANK GOODNESS she’s decided to talk about it first!! I love how main characters continue to be ✨Goals✨ 💙
One of my most hated tropes is someone unilaterally deciding to break up with their love interest, “for their own good”, but *not telling them the real reason!*
I could write a small, heated essay on *why* but I think I’ll spare you that 😉
Bleuryder
Here’s the thing, Miel has already demonstrated that he’s not afraid to fight for what he wants/believes in, and that includes Abeille. He can fight his battle (and I say that in a good way) AND be strong enough to support Abeille in hers. It might her battle against her mom, but Miel absolutely can assist, and can share the amazing support system he has (his moms) and remind her that she doesn’t only have him, but her entire found family in Monotropa. I hope that he reminds her of this, because in situations like Abeille’s it’s super easy to forget what you’ve built in your road to healing/discovery.
On a humorous note, Miel has moms to spare. You can dump yours in the trash, Abeille and borrow one from him for a bit. Or literally anyone from Aster’s family including Botan’s ex.
Z
Time to file for a restraining order against mummy dearest! Surely, *surely* the future has restraining orders?
Tiffany
There you go, she finally admitted it. Time to rally the team Abeille, you have a LOT of support for a reason. And it’s time for Dad to finally step up. He can’t let his wife keep doing this.
Kendall🔆🌻
It seems like she is asking a question, indirectly. If she were leaning toward leaving, I think she would be more doomy. She is probably expecting Miel to say he wants to fight together, but she is laying out the details so he understands what the problems are. It doesn’t seem Abeiile-like to directly ask for him to take on problems for her. Her tone seems very different than usual. Or I’m just seeing what I want to.
k-chan
I don’t think Abeille is going to ask Miel to take on her problems, or even her (considering said problems). I think Abeille is at the end of her rope – she’s desperate because all the things she’s tried up to this point (including leaving the same planetary system) have not been “enough” to get Amaryllis to listen to Abeille. Abeille cares a lot for Miel and she knows that her mother already cost him his job at Eyebright. Abeille likely doesn’t want her mother to keep sabotaging Miel in order to control her daughter; Abeille is afraid Miel would resent her if he stays and deals with Amaryllis’s issues.
That said, if this version of the future has lawyers/mediators, I think Abeille needs to find one, and soon. Amaryllis is not going to listen to anyone she perceives as “lesser” (like her daughter, Miel, and probably her spouse); any sort of wake-up call will have to come from someone who is/appears to be an Authority. The way I’ve seen people with similar traits to Amaryllis act, she’s definitely a “might makes right” sort of thinker. That doesn’t mean Amaryllis won’t complain, make herself the victim, or get angry – simply that she’s only going to stand down, begrudgingly, if someone makes it clear that they have the power to inflict actual consequences on her.
I wonder if Eyebright is connected to the company on Pasque that handles research /residency? If she’s a higher-level researcher it wouldn’t surprise me if the Pasque company has similar restrictions on public behavior like many large corporations have for their executives (ie, don’t do things that would reflect badly on the company in public). Getting a promising researcher in *another planetary system* fired and interfering with Eyebright’s R&D might look really bad to Pasque’s company, whether Pasque’s company and Eyebright are connected or not.
Jenny
With Eyebright and Amaryllis, I figured she made some repercussions with her complain file to damage Eyebright’s reputation that the company didn’t want to keep putting with her, so they caved in to give her what she wanted. Wouldn’t surprise me that she’ll pull a flank like that, given her tactics as far.
At this point, Abeille will have to confront her mother with some proof that she’s living a better, more supportive life here or take legal action to cut off Amaryllis’ remaining influence. Words alone ain’t going to pierce that adamant mindset of hers.
Kendall🔆🌻
I meant to say that even though Abeiile isn’t asking a question directly, her words and body language serve as a question.
She is laying out her worries about where her conflict with Amaryllis might go, and what it could mean about her relationship with Miel. It implies that Miel could say he wants to face Amaryllis with Abeille and accept the consequences.
I have trouble imagining Abeille asking Miel directly to put himself in danger, or even to allow herself to have the thought, but I imagine Miel would respond to what is being implied.
I think I am seeing Abeille acting differently than we have seen before (or I am seeing what I want to see.
Abeille’s expression in panel 2 reminds me of Clove’s expression in panel 5, chapter 17 page 38. In both they have their head tilted down and they are looking up as if asking for appoval.
Jenny
I don’t think anything else but tackling the root of Amaryllis’ issues, will anything between her and Abeille can have a chance of getting resolve. Some serious borderline has to be eating at the Mother here and having her family make sacrifices of their own wellness and happiness rather than finding healthier ways to cope instead won’t help anyone here.
k-chan
Unfortunately, some families DO go “well, that’s the way [Person] is…” and allow said Person to wreak havoc on their immediate families, with extended families avoiding Person as much as possible. :-/
Felis Dee
Something Abeille needs to learn (and what many of us who grew up with mothers like Amaryllis learned the hard way) :
The path to you self-determination does not depend on your mother’s acceptance or understanding. Stop explaining to her. Stop trying to get her to understand and accept your choice. She never will, because they are counter to what SHE wants. The most you can do to live the life you want is to put protections in place to keep her from using or manipulating others to force you to obey her, and when walk away and live how you want to live.
Grandmotherbear
I don’t know if any of you young ones are aware, but the Beatles had a perfect song to describe Amaryl’s behavior. I think it’s off the Sergeant Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club and it’s titled She’s leaving home. Setting the stage, it’s a young woman aged somewhere between 17- 22 years old, living with 2 parents, and she leaves home Wednesday morning at 5 o’clock she is sneaking is sneaking out of the house. The lyrics say something about She’s leaving home after living alone for so many years. (in other words, nobody looked at her with eyes of truth, the parents only wanted to see their preconceived notions of who she is) I absolutely love how Gina is perfectly bringing us the perfectly shown version of a Narcissistic parent- in this case a maternal host beast. Thank you Gina!
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